A few weeks ago, I sat in my doctor’s office and listened while he explained all the benefits of a medical procedure that I am not 100% sure I want to pursue. It’s not that I don’t trust his guidance—I’ve known this particular doctor since I was a teenager, and he’s guided thousands of patients through this same thing. However, I do want to know my options. 

I told him that I was considering a different approach. He was open to it, but didn’t offer any information about what those approaches might be, continuing instead to speak to the benefits of his recommendation.

I left the appointment with more questions than answers. In the weeks since, I have done what most people would do in my situation: I have taken to the internet, researching what other patients have done and how they feel about their choice. My next step? Seeing another type of provider about a second opinion. 

Despite the fact that this is my health and my body, I feel…guilty. I trust my doctor, but I also trust myself and know what is best for me. I worry that he’ll take it personally if I don’t go with his professional recommendation. I worry that he’ll continue to push me into a set of procedures that I am not sure are entirely right for me. 

This dilemma is part of the reasons patient communities are so important. It’s human nature to want to know: What else is out there?

If you have a story about getting a second opinion, I’d love to hear from you. 

As always, Inspire is here to provide you with a range of perspectives from both patients and healthcare providers alike. This month, we’ve launched a new community in partnership with The Epilepsy Foundation. The Epilepsy & Seizures Support Community is now here for you or a loved one to find and offer support to other patients.

We’re also highlighting an Ask the Expert we are hosting with an expert in exercise and metastatic breast cancer. Stacey Mann is an Advanced Qualified Cancer Exercise Specialist and creator of the 2UStrong Program, a progressive exercise program for women living with cancer. She’s taking your questions now through April 26, 2024. 

Finally, last month we hosted a different Ask the Expert on medical gaslighting. You can read a summary of the discussion here.

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